Love series

Gift of love (My series of thoughts on love)

I have been granted the awesome opportunity as a human being of being a parent.

I have four kids, which over the years,  I have tried to find a sense of balance in the mad and twisted world of parenting. There were no manuals given to me to me to follow. No programs I could use to trouble shot, and when you get advice from people all of it seems to be contradicting at times. So, when I was blessed by these lives  I had to mold, I wanted to make sure I did right by God by making sure I became the best parent I could be, because after all he LOANED these souls to me. When my children were younger it was soo much easier. The challenges they faced in earlier years are far different from the challenges they face embarking on adulthood, and if that isn't enough times and the economy has put a monkey wrench in my parenting style and program. Keeping your kids off drugs, from selling drugs,from teen pregnancy, and running the streets are increasingly hard challenges for even the best of parents. Kids surroundings these days are negative. Give our young people credit! What is due to them for trying to do the right thing in a world which punishes their efforts. Wrong is easier sometimes and less problematic. Where does a parent's love end and begin? The answer to me, is it should never end. Some people believe when a child is the legal age of 18 they should automatically make sense out of life. Venture off and take care of themselves, provide for themselves, look after themselves, know what to do with themselves, all because they have reached the magic number of 18. I feel we do our youth an injustice when we don't aide(not make dependent) them into adulthood. Being a good parent doesn't say move out you're 18 you need to do this on your own now. Growing up is a process and if we send our children out into a world ill equip, they are doomed to fail as successful adults. You don't automatically know how to do everything which is required of you by becoming 18. A parents jobs are never ending, you don't relinquish your parental rights when your child turns 18. The only thing which changes is the dynamics of your parent son/daughter relationship. The economy is bad enough for those of us who have been grown for years and had practice keeping our heads above water. How much harder do you think it is for those adults just starting out in life. Love your children to give them a chance to go out successfully and be stable. Don't let love end on their 18th birthday.